Yes, I won't deny that every family will get into quarrels and fights from time to time - it's normal! After all, we're still imperfect and different beings, we have our own opinions, characters and feelings. So there was one point of time in my life where I would sealed up myself from the love of others, be it my family, friends, or anyone. I was brought up without really being felt loved, though my parents do love me of course, I just can't feel it, the reason because I literally shut myself out from feeling loved. It seemed to me at that time that love was surreal, fake and unreliable, I was afraid that love will disappoint and thus comes the rejection. Stupid, you may think, but I believe it's true in many other lives today. It was probably because of the shadows of what I was brought upon by others while I was still young. Shadows of anger, dislike, unfairness, fear and disappointments. Slowly they turned into hurts which I didn't realized. Those were the lies I lived with for more than half of my life. I didn't blame anyone and I won't. I believe they have their own hurts to deal with as well and for my part, I can only pray for the emotional healing.
It is an amazing story of how God revealed me the pains and hurts of my long ago past. I used to live my whole life without knowing I had so much hurts, and that I never knew I rejected love of any kind. That was also why I did not truly express myself, my feelings to others, and it's also why I was an introvert at young, I didn't like people and I turned down any invitations of parties from my friends and so. It really got me a long time to walk out of this. And God is obviously doing the restoring works of what true love is. Restoring the right perspective of His love for me, family relationships, friendships, BGR etc. I guess Satan is active in destroying relationships through disputes and strong disagreements, breaking trust and love for one another in and out of a relationship, and we see divorce cases mounting up at such a shocking rate, teenagers running away from home, engaging with drugs and premarital sex, criminal offenses covering all over the news etc. Aren't all these results of a broken family? The devil sure has a big foothold in many marriages today! And that is what we need to fight against!
God created us to be His family. A family comes from God, and this family is not only biological families, but spiritual families as well. The Bible talks about marriage in the first book as well as in the last. From the beginning to the end, I'm sure it matters very much to Him about marriage and family. I know God is still working, and He is doing a restoration and transformation work in my family. He's healed me from the hurts and pains of my past, and I can open up to love and to receive love. I'm proud to say that I love my family and I know very much that they love me too. I am convicted that God is bridging the gap between our family members and building a strong love relationship with each other. That is because He loves His families, He loves us. And He desires all families and marriages to be complete, restored and enhanced that it will produce a warm and loving family to shine and become examples to other households. That is His will. Love is absolutely not what Hollywood preaches. Love is God and God is love.
If you're facing love issues of any kind, why not come to Him with your hurts and let His love melt and wash away all the pains and struggles? There's always hope, there's always blessings when we let Him take charge. With God all things are possible!
Adding to this post a superb movie called, "Courageous" is a movie that relates to God's idea of a family. It really touches me deeply to think and apply the ideal love in and out of my family. It's really a great movie that I'm doing a promoting act here. Hehe, must watch!
"But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD!"
Joshua 24:15
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